Infidelity Therapist & Trauma Therapy · Montclair, NJ
You Understand What Happened. Your Body Hasn't Caught Up Yet.
Trauma therapy for adults whose trust was broken — by infidelity, a betrayal, a family pattern, or a relationship that keeps repeating. Real trauma-informed, attachment-based work to help you feel safe again, not just talk about what happened.
In-Person or Virtual
Virtual Statewide & In-Person in Montclair
Infidelity, Attachment & Relationship Patterns
Trauma-Informed & Somatic
Sound Familiar?
Your Body Is Still Bracing, Even Though Your Mind Knows Better
- You replay it, even when you don't want to
- Trust issues make it hard to let anyone in — someone new, or the same person again
- You keep ending up in the same kind of relationship, different name
- You know exactly what your patterns are — you just don't know how to change them
- You're exhausted from holding it together for everyone but yourself
Healing Isn't About Moving On. It's About Trusting Yourself Again.
Trauma therapy can help you:
- Understand your nervous system's response to betrayal and repeated relational injury
- Rebuild your ability to trust — yourself first
- Process what happened without reliving it on repeat
- Break the patterns that keep leading you back here, whether they started with a partner or long before
- Move from just understanding your patterns to actually changing them
How We Work Together
Not generic talk therapy. Not retelling the story on a loop, and not more insight into a pattern you can already describe perfectly.
We use trauma-informed, attachment-based, and somatic methods to help your nervous system actually settle, not just your mind understand what happened.
Whether it's cheating, a slower betrayal, or trust issues that go back further than this one relationship — into family roles, guilt, or generational patterns — Generational Trauma & Eldest Daughter Therapy may be the more direct starting point.
If the pattern shows up most clearly in who you keep choosing to date, dating therapist work may be the better fit.
Sessions are available weekly, or as a focused intensive if you need more space than once-a-week allows.
Visit Us
Trauma Therapy in Montclair, NJ
28 Valley Rd, Suite 1, Montclair, NJ 07042
Get Directions & Contact InfoFrequently Asked Questions
Still have questions?
Take a look at the FAQ below, or reach out anytime you’re ready to start.
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Forgiveness isn't forgetting or condoning what happened, and it doesn't require staying. It's releasing what isn't yours to carry so you can move forward, whatever that looks like for you.
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Yes, but it's a process, not a switch. Healing means learning to trust your own judgment again as much as trusting anyone else.
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The psychological injury that comes from being deceived or harmed by someone you trusted. It affects your nervous system, not just your emotions.
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Common signs include difficulty trusting your own judgment, replaying the past on a loop, hypervigilance around relationships, and feeling like you're holding it together on the outside while unraveling underneath.
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It varies, but meaningful shifts are often felt within a few months of consistent work. Intensives can help move that process faster.
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Because your nervous system attached to them as a source of safety. That instinct doesn't disappear just because the trust did.
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Yes. Whether it was a kiss, flirting, sexting, or a secret emotional connection, betrayal trauma isn't about the technical act — it's about the deception and the broken trust. If it hurt you and it was hidden from you, your reaction is valid.
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That's common. Many relationship patterns are rooted in family roles or generational patterns established well before adulthood. Trauma therapy can address both current relationship trust and its origins, or focus specifically on family patterns through generational trauma therapy.
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No. Betrayal trauma can come from anyone you trusted and depended on — a partner, but also a parent, a sibling, a close friend, or even a boss or coworker. What makes it betrayal trauma isn't who did it, it's that someone you trusted broke that trust.
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That's common. Many relationship patterns are rooted in family roles or generational patterns established well before adulthood. Trauma therapy can address both current relationship trust and its origins, or focus specifically on family patterns through generational trauma therapy.
Betrayal doesn't just break trust in someone else.
It breaks trust in your own judgment.
We can rebuild both.
Ready When You Are
You Don't Have to Carry This Alone
A consultation costs ten minutes. Waiting costs a lot more.
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