Telling your kids you’re getting divorced may be one of the hardest conversations you ever have. What to say, what not to say, how to tailor it by age, and how to support them in the days and weeks after.

After an affair, one of the hardest questions parents face is what to tell the kids. Not whether to say something, but how much, when, and how. What children of different ages actually need to hear, what to keep private, and when to get support.